note to self for if i'm ever a parent, and in general

acting needy and guilt-trippy does not encourage people to show you they love you. (as bart simpson said, "if i wanted lame and needy, i'd hang out with milhouse.")

when someone tells you what is important to them, they actually mean it.

people aren't just acting like that to make you angry; that's their personality.

if you've asked the same question and gotten the same answer for fifteen years, it is probably time to give it a rest.

if someone doesn't turn out how you thought they would, the problem is yours.

if they have told you something many many times and you still don't act as though you have heard them, they have a right to be angry. at you.